The Cage of Anger: Part 1


In my last blog, I explained why leaders need to embody their ideals. In order to do this, they need to get to know themselves at a deeper level. Basically, there are three key emotions that live in the shadow, but that cannot be skipped if a leader wishes to own his shadow: anger, fear, and sadness.

Now let’s have a closer look at the first emotion: anger, or rage. I encourage all leaders that I work with to explore it – that is, if they want to discover who they are (their identity) and why they’re here (their purpose). Because only through such an exploration, they can retrieve their hidden powers and gain new momentum in life.

From enemy to ally

The problem with anger is that it often denies itself. This has everything to do with violence being a taboo; denial is a common approach when it comes to taboos. Now, anger is the leader’s biggest threshold and his biggest breakthrough, provided that he is willing to transform it into an ally. In order to achieve this, however, we first need to explore the energy of anger a bit more.

Anger as a fuel

Many leaders use anger as a fuel that keeps them going. This is an unintentional process that is unknown to them. However, sooner or later, they will run out of fuel and it will become destructive, because they don’t use their anger consciously. This may result in burnouts, depressions, and exclusion, among other things. And that’s how anger becomes your enemy: it stays in the shadow. Leaders who use it as a fuel tend to implode; their anger is turned inwards rather than outwards, which happens when they explode. The danger of imploding is that you’re not aware of it when it happens. It’s very easy to deny, but it leads to a major obstacle: you’re blocking your ability to receive your deeper potential.

What to do?

This problem can be solved in several steps. First, it’s important to get to know the bully or perpetrator within yourself. Exploring this role will eventually lead to a rediscovery of the archetypical warrior inside of you. Next, you can retrieve the warrior’s potential: your strength and courage. Suddenly, a new world will open up to you. As you rattle the cage of your emotions, and leave ‘the fight to survive’ behind, you will fly out of the cage of anger.

Ready to explore?

Start now. The solution lies in your ability to discern between your self-images and your true self. Ask yourself the following questions:

  • What judgments do you have about violence in the world?
  • Can you imagine and visualize yourself inflicting violence upon others?
  • Do you have the courage to explore the energy of the killer inside you?